Where’s the Grit? What Makes a Good Medium, and Why the Bad Nights Matter Too

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I want you to think back to a reading. One you've had, or, if you're a medium, one you've given. What do you remember about it? The name, the date, the house number? Or how it made you feel?

Those aren't the same thing. A medium can be accurate, fact after fact after fact, and still leave you feeling nothing. Another can give you less and change the way you see your whole life.

So what actually makes a medium effective? That's the question I put to Christine Morgan for Part 3 of The Art of Mediumship Curriculum on Soul Sync. Christine has been working as a medium for nearly forty years and founded The School of Intuitive Arts and Mediumship in Sydney. I've sat in her circles, and there's a phrase of hers that has really stayed with me.

Where's the grit?

When someone starts working in Christine's circle, she'll ask, "Where's the grit?" Everybody laughs, but she means it.

If you're going to tell her that someone is communicating from the spirit world, it has to be more than "your mum's here, she had a heart attack, and you need to drink more water." As Christine put it, if your mum has a few precious moments to speak to you through a medium, is she really going to spend them on your bad back?

Evidence matters. The spirit world know they have to identify themselves. But beyond the detail there's the story of a life: who they were, what they did, and why they've made the effort to come through at all. Even if the reason is simply "I'm still here" or "I still love you", that's purposeful. Yes, grandmothers baked. There's a lot more to a grandmother than an apron.

What really landed for me was why so many readings stay on the surface. A lot of the time, Christine says, the medium won't let the communication build. They grab a piece of evidence, identify who it is, and then the mind is off snatching the next piece, and the next. It can sound gritty because it's proving something. But the real grit is the meaning. In her words, it becomes a story of fact rather than the story of a life.

I know that difference from the sitter's chair too. Some readings describe my family. Others move me. The way I tell them apart is how I feel when it's over.

Let the spirit world lead the dance

Christine's answer is to stop leading. The spirit world know what they want to portray and which steps to take. If you truly blend with them, you bring them to life, you feel the life of them, and hopefully the person in front of you feels it too.

She also said something every working medium should hear. Take a moment to ask the person, "Does that bring you comfort? Do you feel comfortable with what I've shared?" She doesn't think enough of us do it.

I've had readings recently where I've got to the end, the person has looked a bit dumbfounded, and I've had no idea whether I've helped. For us, the spirit world is everyday. For someone who has never had a communication before, it's enormous. They might only ever have one reading, and they'll never forget it.

Which is where Christine's warning about the "sausage factory medium" comes in. Get them in, get them out. I do like a sausage. I don't want to be that kind of medium.

The night I wanted the stage to swallow me up

I told Christine about a recent demonstration that didn't go to plan at all.

All day I'd felt the presence of spirit so strongly that I thought, this is going to be one night. Then I walked out in front of a packed room, and all I could feel was the expectation of who everyone wanted to hear from. When people couldn't take the links, the energy dipped, and getting it back up was like wading through treacle. At one point I said to a lady, "I know I'm with you," and she wouldn't take it. Eventually she said yes, but it wasn't who she wanted to hear from. My family were in the audience. I've been reviewing it for days.

What I've taken from it is trust, and the fact that I go off like a whippet. Some of that is the movement of the power, but that night I wasn't letting it build.

Christine's reply is one I'll hold on to. Every medium, if they're honest, will tell you about a time they bombed. About thirty years ago in Western Australia, when she was doing around three churches a week, she pulled into a car park after a service and couldn't drive for crying. She was convinced she'd let the spirit world down.

In those moments, she said, you climb a self-doubt ladder and forget everything you did well before. Her advice is to keep taking your mind back to the times you did a good job. I wrote more about that in Belief or Knowing? Self-Doubt and the Unfinished Journey of Trust.

She recognised the rushing, too. In her early years she was so excited to work that she ran on adrenaline. Bang, bang, bang, then after about four contacts it would go flat, because she was working off her own energy rather than blending properly. Breathe. Pause. Let the contact build.

Why are mediums so hard on themselves?

I want to really push this point, because I see it all the time in my classes and circles.

So many people are incredibly hard on themselves in mediumship. That's understandable. It's generally sensitive people who are drawn to this work, and sensitive people feel it deeply when something goes wrong. We're bringing through someone who matters to the person sitting in front of us, so of course we put pressure on ourselves.

But getting things wrong is part of the process. It's part of learning to trust, and so much of mediumship comes down to trusting what you receive. You can't learn that without the times it doesn't land.

You also have to be free to experiment. How else do you find out how the spirit world communicate with you? It's trial and error. That's exactly what my classes focus on: The Power of You for psychic development, and Moving in the Intelligence of Spirit for mediumship. Both are about learning to trust what you receive, in a space where getting it wrong is welcome. If you'd rather start somewhere free, my Tuesday development circle is open to all levels.

Getting to a stage where you're comfortable with the word "no" is a really good place to arrive at. Christine put it simply: "Oh, no. That's okay, I made a mistake. Let me carry on with the contact."

And here's something I wish someone had told me sooner. You can get into a lovely groove where reading after reading goes really well, then have a few that don't. That isn't always going backwards. Sometimes the spirit world have decided you're ready to unfold a different part of your mediumship. The difficult experiences are the ones we learn the most from.

Can the spirit world hear every thought?

Then we went deeper, and some of Christine's answers might surprise you.

She doesn't believe every thought we have reaches the spirit world. They aren't hanging off us, reading our minds. What does reach them, she believes, is thought with real intention and purpose behind it. For her, that's what prayer is: not words out of a book, but a personal conversation from the heart.

What are our guides, really?

This is the part I think will reassure a lot of developing mediums. In nearly forty years, Christine has clairvoyantly seen her guides perhaps a couple of dozen times, mostly when she was in real need. She can feel them and often hear them, but she doesn't need to know who they are. You don't need to link with a guide to make a communication.

She challenged me, too. When I described a guide who stepped forward in a suit of armour, she suggested it could just as easily be an archetype, an aspect of my own soul. Some of what people call guides may be exactly that, and family members in spirit can help us as well. I once had someone ask, when my business was going through a bad patch, whether I'd called on my business guide. I didn't know I had one.

Christine's advice: don't guide-worship. Get to know your team, send them your thoughts, and don't overlook the wisdom that comes from your own soul.

And negative entities? Christine is clear. The spirit world she works with is a world of love and intelligence. Nothing negative can hurt you, she says, except your own mind and how you interpret what you feel. Someone who isn't used to the feeling of spirit could turn a loving great-grandmother into the wicked witch.

What to look for when you have a reading

If you're not a medium yourself and you're wondering what a good reading looks like, this conversation is a pretty good guide.

A good medium will tell you upfront that they can't guarantee who comes through, or whether anyone will. Christine doesn't ask who you want to hear from, because that colours the medium's mind. Sometimes the next-door neighbour turns up before Mum. And a good reading gives you more than facts. You should get a sense of the person and why they've come, and you should feel something.

If you'd like to know how a sitting works, I've written about what happens during a mediumship reading. If you'd like to experience it for yourself, you can book a reading with me.

Be effective for yourself

I asked Christine to close the episode, and she turned the whole question back on us. You can only be an effective reader, medium or healer when you're effective for yourself. Come from grace, kindness and honesty, and be brave enough to say, "I made a mistake there," or "I need to do more work on that." You never really arrive. But you come to understand yourself, the spirit world and humanity a little better, and that makes you a better channel for the other world.

Thank you, Christine. You can find out more about her teaching and readings on Christine's website.

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Spiritual Takeaways

  1. Evidence identifies; purpose transforms. Look past the facts for the story of a life and the reason they've come.

  2. Let the spirit world lead the dance. Grabbing for the next piece of evidence keeps a reading on the surface.

  3. Check in with the person in front of you. A simple "Does that bring you comfort?" makes a reading more effective.

  4. Every medium has nights it goes wrong. Review honestly, then take your mind back to the times you did well.

  5. Make friends with the word "no". Say you made a mistake and carry on with the contact.

  6. Don't guide-worship. You don't need a named guide to make a communication, and some of that wisdom is your own soul's.

  7. Be effective for yourself first. Grace, kindness and honesty make you a better channel.

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Jason Paul is a psychic medium based in Bristol, giving private readings online to clients across the UK and around the world. He is the grandson of medium and healer Eddie Paul, and came to mediumship after careers as a police officer and the founder of a legal recruitment business. Jason hosts the Soul Sync podcast and teaches online psychic and mediumship development classes.

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